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ROOT IS GOING TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND
WHAT’S REALLY DRIVING YOUR PEOPLE-PLEASING,
OVERTHINKING AND SELF-ABANDONMENT
Get Done-For-You Resources to Help Your Clients with People Pleasing
But understanding why you do it is only part of the work.
I’ve put together 7 practical CBT tools to help you start challenging those patterns and doing something differently.
INTRODUCING THE
CBT People Pleasing Bundle
7 Resources for just £7
✔️ People Pleaser Guide
✔️ People-Displeasing Exercise
✔️ Uncovering Beliefs Exercise
✔️ People-Pleasing Timeline Exercise
✔️ Values Workbook
✔️ 30 Days People-Pleasing Challenge
✔️ CBT Mini-Journal: Say No
This is for you if…
You say yes when everything in you wants to say no. You feel responsible for how everyone around you feels. You go home exhausted from managing other people's emotions — and somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like yourself.
This is especially for you if:
✔️ You are exhausted by how much you give and how little is left for you
✔️ You feel guilty saying no, even to people who have no trouble saying it to you
✔️ You lose yourself in relationships — becoming who others need you to be
✔️ You know something needs to change but you've never been able to make it stick
Understand your people pleasing from the inside out
People-pleasing is becoming an increasingly common challenge — one that many are now seeking help for in therapy. As a psychotherapist who specialises in people-pleasing (and a former people-pleaser myself), I've created these resources to bring clarity, empowerment, and real change.
Replace:
These 7 resources use CBT to help you understand why you do this, challenge the beliefs that keep the pattern in place, and begin to rebuild your relationship with yourself. Created by Leanne Astbury — a qualified psychotherapist and recovered people pleaser.
Seven CBT resources to help you
understand, challenge, and unlearn people pleasing
starting from the root
to Support Clients in Identifying, Understanding, and Challenging People-Pleasing Patterns.
People Pleaser Guide: Finally understand what is actually driving this
This is where it starts. A clear, honest explanation of what people pleasing really is — and why willpower alone has never been enough to stop it.
The difference between kindness and people-pleasing
Core fears driving approval-seeking (e.g., rejection, conflict, abandonment)
Common behavioural signs and long-term consequences
The emotional and relational benefits of overcoming it
The starting point for understanding yourself without shame.
The Cycle of people-pleasing
People-Displeasing Exercise: The most important thing you can practise
This exercise asks you to make promises to yourself that will, sometimes, disappoint the people around you. It is uncomfortable. It is also essential.
Set clear internal boundaries that challenge people-pleasing reflexes
Practise tolerating discomfort, disapproval, or delayed responses
Replace guilt-based behaviours with values-aligned choices
Build confidence in saying no, slowing down, and showing up authentically
Includes 10 sample promises with space to create your own. The beginning of choosing yourself.
People-Pleasing Timeline: Your people pleasing has a history
This exercise helps you trace where your people pleasing began — and why it made complete sense at the time. Understanding the origin changes everything.
Trauma-informed insight into where approval-seeking began
Connections between past experiences and current behaviours
Narrative therapy, inner child work, or identity exploration
Structured prompts across life stages to help you see your own story with compassion.
Uncovering Beliefs Exercise: Find what is actually running the show
What you think and what you deeply believe are not the same thing. This worksheet traces your unhelpful thoughts all the way down to the core beliefs underneath — and shows you how to start shifting them.
Uncover negative beliefs fueling people-pleasing and self-doubt
Recognise the link between thoughts, emotions, and behaviours
Begin reframing beliefs with 10 practical, CBT-informed strategies
Great for self-worth
Values Workbook: Find your way back to yourself
When you have spent years living for other people, you often do not know what you actually want. This 10-page workbook helps you reconnect with who you are when you are not performing for everyone else.
Explore values across life domains (relationships, work, wellbeing, etc.)
Identify where people-pleasing has created misalignment
Support values-based decision-making and boundary setting
The foundation of making decisions from a place of genuine choice.
30 Days to Unlearn People Pleasing: Real change is a daily practice
This 30-day journal takes you through four phases — awareness, uncovering beliefs, building boundaries, and rewriting the stories you tell yourself about your worth.
Awareness of patterns and origins
Uncovering limiting beliefs and approval-seeking fears
Building boundaries and assertiveness
Rewriting narratives tied to self-worth
Thirty days of structured, compassionate work to shift the pattern for good.
Say No with Confidence: The words you have been looking for
Knowing you need to say no and actually doing it are very different things. This gives you 20 clear ways to say no — plus reflection space to practise in real situations.
Build a confident, guilt-free boundary voice
Practise assertive responses in real-life situations
Reduce anxiety around saying no and prioritising self-care
For anyone who dreads the moment someone asks for something they cannot give.
WAYS TO USE THIS
Once purchased you will receive everything as an instant download — print-ready PDFs and you are ready to get started.
WHO CREATED THESE RESOURCES?
These resources were developed by Leanne Astbury, a qualified psychotherapist and recovered people-pleaser who now specialises in helping others overcome the same struggle.
Through her own personal journey with people-pleasing, Leanne discovered the importance of addressing its root causes, not just the behaviours, but the beliefs and fears that lie beneath. She’s passionate about helping others understand that people-pleasing isn’t a personality trait, it’s a survival strategy that can be unlearned for the sake of long-term mental health and wellbeing.
Leanne created these tools because she believes that understanding people pleasing at the root — not just managing it on the surface — is what creates real, lasting change.
These resources were developed by Leanne Astbury, a qualified psychotherapist and recovered people-pleaser who now specialises in helping others overcome the same struggle.
Through her own personal journey with people-pleasing, Leanne discovered the importance of addressing its root causes, not just the behaviours, but the beliefs and fears that lie beneath. She’s passionate about helping others understand that people-pleasing isn’t a personality trait, it’s a survival strategy that can be unlearned for the sake of long-term mental health and wellbeing.
Leanne created these tools to share her knowledge with other professionals so we can collectively make a difference — empowering people to break free from self-sacrifice and build a more confident, fulfilled future.
Get Instant Access to the Full
CBT Coaching Bundle
7 Resources for just £7
✔️ People Pleaser Guide
✔️ People-Displeasing Exercise
✔️ Uncovering Beliefs Exercise
✔️ People-Pleasing Timeline Exercise
✔️ Values Workbook
✔️ 30 Days People-Pleasing Challenge
✔️ CBT Mini-Journal: Say No
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Who are these for?
Anyone who recognises themselves in the patterns described on this page. Whether you are working through this personally or using them alongside therapy.
How will I receive the materials?
Instantly by email. As soon as you complete your purchase, you’ll receive downloadable PDFs and can get started.
Do I need to follow them in order?
I would start with the People Pleasing Guide, then Uncovering Beliefs. But then you can continue in whichever order you would like to.
Is this a subscription?
No. One payment. Yours to keep and use forever.
Do you have a money back guarantee?
Yes! We’re so confident in the value of these resources that we offer a 7-day money-back guarantee. If you're not satisfied for any reason, simply reach out within 7 days of purchase for a full refund — no questions asked.