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Help Your Clients with People Pleasing
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7 Resources for just $7
Get Instant Access to the Full
CBT Coaching Bundle
7 Resources for just $7
✔️ People Pleaser Guide
✔️ People-Displeasing Exercise
✔️ Uncovering Beliefs Exercise
✔️ People-Pleasing Timeline Exercise
✔️ Values Workbook
✔️ 30 Days People-Pleasing Challenge
✔️ CBT Mini-Journal: Say No
Who This Is Perfect For
If you are a coach, life coach, counsellor, therapist, teacher, healer, social worker, or simply someone who wants to understand people-pleasing on a deeper level, this resource is for you.
It’s especially helpful if you:
✔️ If you are personally curious about people pleasing
✔️ Work with clients or students who struggle with people-pleasing
✔️ Want practical, CBT-based tools to support emotional growth and boundary-setting
✔️ Are committed to helping others (or yourself) move from self-sacrifice to self-worth
Understand People-Pleasing from a
Cognitive Behavioural Perspective
These 7 resources are designed to support both you and your clients in understanding the roots of people-pleasing and provide practical tools to help break the cycle that keeps them stuck.
People-pleasing is becoming an increasingly common challenge — one that many are now seeking help for in therapy. As a psychotherapist who specialises in people-pleasing (and a former people-pleaser myself), I've created these resources to bring clarity, empowerment, and real change.
Equip Your Practice with
7 Targeted CBT Tools
to Support Clients in Identifying, Understanding,
and Challenging People-Pleasing Patterns.
to Support Clients in Identifying, Understanding, and Challenging People-Pleasing Patterns.
(Completely customisable and brandable to use as your own)
People pleaser Guide: A Psychoeducational Guide for Client Insight
This foundational handout offers a clear, therapist-friendly explanation of what people-pleasing is — and what it isn’t.
The difference between kindness and people-pleasing
Core fears driving approval-seeking (e.g., rejection, conflict, abandonment)
Common behavioural signs and long-term consequences
The emotional and relational benefits of overcoming it
Ideal for use in early sessions, assessment, or as part of a psychoeducation pack for self-awareness and motivation.
The Cycle of people-pleasing
People-Displeasing Exercise: A Boundary-Building Commitment Tool
This printable worksheet invites clients to create and commit to 10 personal “promises” that reinforce boundaries, self-trust, and emotional autonomy.
Set clear internal boundaries that challenge people-pleasing reflexes
Practise tolerating discomfort, disapproval, or delayed responses
Replace guilt-based behaviours with values-aligned choices
Build confidence in saying no, slowing down, and showing up authentically
Includes 10 sample “displeasing promises” with space for clients to create their own. A powerful addition to boundary, assertiveness, and values work in therapy.
People-Pleasing Timeline: A Developmental Insight Tool
This guided timeline helps clients map out when and how people-pleasing tendencies developed — from early childhood through adulthood.
Trauma-informed insight into where approval-seeking began
Connections between past experiences and current behaviours
Narrative therapy, inner child work, or identity exploration
Provides structured prompts across life stages to support client reflection and self-awareness.
Uncovering Beliefs Exercise: A CBT Worksheet for Belief Discovery & Reframing
This therapist-designed worksheet walks clients through identifying unhelpful thoughts and tracing them to the underlying core beliefs using the CBT “downward arrow” technique.
Uncover negative beliefs fueling people-pleasing and self-doubt
Recognise the link between thoughts, emotions, and behaviours
Begin reframing beliefs with 10 practical, CBT-informed strategies
Great for self-worth, schema work, and clients struggling with internalised narratives.
Values Workbook: A CBT-Based Tool for Values Clarification & Behavioural Alignment
This 10-page printable workbook helps clients identify and reconnect with their personal values — ideal for those navigating people-pleasing, boundary issues, or a lost sense of identity.
Explore values across life domains (relationships, work, wellbeing, etc.)
Identify where people-pleasing has created misalignment
Support values-based decision-making and boundary setting
Perfect for ACT, CBT, or any work focused on self-worth, identity, or meaningful behaviour change.
30 Days to Unlearn People-Pleasing: A CBT-Based Reflective Journal
This structured 30-day journal guides clients through four themed phases to help them recognise, challenge, and shift their people-pleasing behaviours.
Awareness of patterns and origins
Uncovering limiting beliefs and approval-seeking fears
Building boundaries and assertiveness
Rewriting narratives tied to self-worth
Ideal for between-session work or as a structured resource in long-term self-esteem, identity, or boundary work.
Say No with Confidence: A CBT Mini-Journal for Boundary Building
This resource equips clients with 20 therapist-crafted ways to say “no” — plus space to reflect and practise.
Build a confident, guilt-free boundary voice
Practise assertive responses in real-life situations
Reduce anxiety around saying no and prioritising self-care
Perfect for clients who overextend, avoid conflict, or need scripts to support early boundary-setting work.
WAYS TO USE THIS RESOURCE
Once purchased, you’ll receive the workbooks in a downloadable format — simply print and use them right away. You’ll also receive an editable version, allowing you to:
Make any changes you wish
Add your logo
Personalise it to suit your brand
Tailor the content to your unique audience
Whether you're using them as free resources in your sessions or for marketing, workshops, or courses, these materials are flexible, practical, and fully customisable.
WHO DEVELOPED THESE RESOURCES?
These resources were developed by Leanne Astbury, a qualified psychotherapist and recovered people-pleaser who now specialises in helping others overcome the same struggle.
Through her own personal journey with people-pleasing, Leanne discovered the importance of addressing its root causes, not just the behaviours, but the beliefs and fears that lie beneath. She’s passionate about helping others understand that people-pleasing isn’t a personality trait, it’s a survival strategy that can be unlearned for the sake of long-term mental health and wellbeing.
Leanne created these tools to share her knowledge with other professionals so we can collectively make a difference — empowering people to break free from self-sacrifice and build a more confident, fulfilled future.
These resources were developed by Leanne Astbury, a qualified psychotherapist and recovered people-pleaser who now specialises in helping others overcome the same struggle.
Through her own personal journey with people-pleasing, Leanne discovered the importance of addressing its root causes, not just the behaviours, but the beliefs and fears that lie beneath. She’s passionate about helping others understand that people-pleasing isn’t a personality trait, it’s a survival strategy that can be unlearned for the sake of long-term mental health and wellbeing.
Leanne created these tools to share her knowledge with other professionals so we can collectively make a difference — empowering people to break free from self-sacrifice and build a more confident, fulfilled future.
Get Instant Access to the Full
CBT Coaching Bundle
7 Resources for just $7
✔️ People Pleaser Guide
✔️ People-Displeasing Exercise
✔️ Uncovering Beliefs Exercise
✔️ People-Pleasing Timeline Exercise
✔️ Values Workbook
✔️ 30 Days People-Pleasing Challenge
✔️ CBT Mini-Journal: Say No
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Who are these resources for?
These resources are designed for therapists, coaches, counsellors, social workers, educators, and other helping professionals who support clients with people-pleasing, boundaries, self-worth, or emotional regulation. They're also suitable for use in workshops, psychoeducational groups, or personal development programs.
Can I customise and brand these materials for my practice?
Yes! Your purchase includes editable files. You can add your logo, tweak language, and tailor the content to match your branding or therapeutic style.
How will I receive the materials?
Instantly. As soon as you complete your purchase, you’ll receive downloadable PDFs and editable versions (e.g. Word or Canva) that you can start using right away.
Are these suitable for 1:1 work or group sessions?
Absolutely — they’re flexible. You can use them in one-to-one client sessions, group work, homework assignments, or even as standalone psychoeducational tools in workshops or courses.
Can I use these as client handouts or homework?
Yes. These resources were created specifically to support therapeutic goals between sessions. They’re ideal for deepening insight, reinforcing boundaries, or guiding reflective practice outside of the therapy room.
Are these appropriate for clients who aren't people-pleasers but struggle with boundaries or self-worth?
Definitely. While the bundle focuses on people-pleasing, the tools are rooted in broader themes like emotional autonomy, self-trust, core beliefs, and values — making them useful across various client presentations.
Is there any ongoing cost or subscription?
No — this is a one-time purchase. Buy once, use forever. You’ll have ongoing access to all files for unlimited personal or professional use.
Do I need special software to edit them?
Nope! Files are provided in widely accessible formats (Word, Canva, PDF) so you can edit them using tools you likely already use.
Do you have a money back guarantee?
Yes! We’re so confident in the value of these resources that we offer a 7-day money-back guarantee. If you're not satisfied for any reason, simply reach out within 7 days of purchase for a full refund — no questions asked.